Focus is defined as “A central point, as of attraction, attention, or activity.” Earlier in my life, I was anything but focused. I found that I wasted a lot of time wanting certain things in life, but always failing to get them. And the reason I was failing is that I was distracted by too many things that really weren’t contributing to me reaching my goals.
That inevitably led to the poison of procrastination that robbed me of everything I truly wanted in life. There was always an excuse to be doing anything other than what I really needed to be doing. Or there was always some shiny new object that snatched my attention away from pursuing my goals. It wasn’t until I decided to get rid of the things that were “clutter” in my life that I truly began to gain the focus needed to chase down my goals and make them a reality.
It was during this time that I developed a methodology, a certain set of guiding principles, that when put into practice became an unstoppable force in my life. These 7 principles gave me the keys to unlock a door to incredible focus, energy and intentionality. I distilled those 7 principles down to the acronym F.O.C.U.S.E.D. And now I am going to share them with you.
‘F’ stands for “Fearless.” Fear is the monster in the dark that can paralyze us and keep us from taking action. It is only by deconstructing and confronting that fear, exposing it for what it really is, that we can step forward and take meaningful action toward achieving our goals. Until we do that, we will remain stuck where we are.
‘O’ stands for “Optimistic.” Being optimistic is not about some pie-in-the-sky positivity that will magically bring your heart’s desires to you. No, it’s about a pattern of thinking that conquers disappointments and challenges so that you do not become the victim, but rather the victor in your life! Optimism, however, does not come easy to most. It takes work to cultivate a mindset that constantly turns lemons into lemonade and fortifies us against the many disappointments that are bound to come our way.
‘C’ stands for “Consistency,” for it is only by being consistent that you can like the fabled tortoise, slow as he was, keep pressing toward your goal and eventually win. The hare had everything seemingly going his way. But he wasn’t consistent. He literally fell asleep on the job and lost the race. Be the tortoise, not the hare!
‘U’ stands for “Understand.” Too many times we dive into something without fully understanding what it is we’re getting into, or even understanding ourselves. Have you ever done that? I sure have. And once we’re knee-deep in the challenges, we suddenly realize this was more than we bargained for. Had we taken the time to understand everything we could about ourselves and this thing we thought we wanted, we could’ve saved ourselves a lot of time and headache by anticipating the challenges ahead, knowing what resources and tools we needed and what is involved in getting it done. Yes, understanding is key.
‘S’ stands for “Strategic.” This is where your plans come into play. It has been said that when you fail to plan, you might as well plan to fail. You must learn how to plan your steps of action so that they lead you unfailingly toward your goals. One trick to use when planning how to achieve a certain goal is to “reverse-engineer” it. In other words, start with the end in mind and gradually move backward in time in a series of progressively smaller steps until you get to the one thing you can do today that will get you to the next step a week from now. Hey, how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!
‘E’ stands for “Energized.” How many times have you read something, heard something or seen something that sparked a need to take action within you but, after that initial burst of excitement faded away, you gradually left off taking the actions that contributed towards attaining your goals? When you learn how to cultivate and maintain a high state of energy in your life, you never tire out or get discouraged on the path to achieving your goals. And the key to having that energy is understanding your BIG WHY. That is, the thing that drives you, that makes having this particular thing so important to you that you will do whatever it takes to get it. Without that BIG WHY, you will soon give up because you won’t have a strong enough force fueling you to keep going when the going gets tough. What’s your BIG WHY?
‘D’ stands for “Do and Deny.” We can dream and plan until the cows come home. But until we actually DO something, it’s all just a fantasy. At a certain point, the only thing left to do is to just DO it! And until we make a “To Don’t” list, we will keep doing all the piddling little things that suck up our time and energy and keep us from doing the important things that will propel us toward achieving our goals and dreams. In other words, we have to recognize all the people and things we must DENY in our lives because they are at the very least a distraction, and at worst, an outright danger to us ever achieving our goals. Ask yourself, what things do you need to do and what things do you need to deny in order to insure that you reach your goals and dreams?
Now you know that being Fearless, Optimistic, Consistent, Understanding, Strategic, Energized and by employing Do and Deny in your life you can unlock the door to incredible focus and intentionality. If you can understand and master how to put these 7 principles of focus into your life, you will empower yourself with an unbeatable combination of knowledge, grit, smarts and sheer inner fire that no obstacle, person or event will ever be able to stop!
Sometimes the best way to get there is by employing a coach in your life. A coach will help you understand what’s holding you back, what action steps you need to take and what plan will get you from where you are to where you want to be. And most importantly, a coach will be there to hold you accountable every day.
My particular style of coaching is based on the F.O.C.U.S.E.D methodology we just reviewed and that got me out of my 9 to 5 slave wage job to calling my own shots and doubling my income in a few short months.
I would be happy to give you a free discovery session to figure out if that’s the best course of action for you. But, whatever you do, don’t let another day go by until you take action to get focused, intentional and fired up about your future! f